5 lies that MEN tell

So my boy Mr. Jet Setter himself recently spoke to the 5 lies that women tell. While I could see some of those points, it sparked my interest to talk to the lies that men tell. Trust me there are definitely more than 5 and I could go on for days but I will only speak to 5 of them. If you have comments or thoughts on other lies go ahead and blog away or comment on this blog. Thanks.

So lie #1: I love you

Now don’t get me wrong. I am not saying that anytime a guy says that he loves you he is lying to you. Its not that simple. You do need to look at the context and timing of this so called love. Men normally aren’t big on sharing their feelings (not all but most) so if you are having a big fight and he is in the wrong then out of nowhere he loves you. Don’t get excited and rush to tell your girls. First of all you just got played. Its like you were playing poker and he got the ace on the river that he needed for his royal flush. (Yup I stay on my poker game too) Secondly, loving someone and being in love with someone are two separate things. (That blog is coming soon if you need clarification.) Anyways if your man is telling you he loves you whenever things are bad or just tossing it around all willy nilly then you should only take it for a grain of salt. Or if he isn't your man and you are questioning if you should sleep with him. Then all of a sudden its "baby I love you." Don't be stupid.

He can love you but when you love someone your actions will speak louder than words. He is ready to do things that he wouldn’t do before. He will put your wants and needs above his own. It won’t always be about sports, his boys and anything else that interest him. No he shouldn’t be your little bitch but if someone really loves you and especially if they are IN love with you its very clear.

Look at the big picture and your relationship. Don’t let the words you are hearing cloud your judgement.

Lie #2: I will leave her for you

Now ladies before I even touch this one if you are the other woman you should be taking a long look in the mirror. Are you secure? Do you have respect for yourself? Do you understand that he is a shady character because he is supposedly committed to someone else but talking to you? While you think about that I will explain.

If a guy is cheating on his current girl with you what makes you think he would leave her for you? He has the best of both worlds. He has his main girl that he is with who is clueless to his shit and thinks he is great. Then he has the sideboo who is aware of the situation and appears to be ok with it. Why would he need to leave that? He has his cake and is eating that shit with a glass of milk. There would never be a reason for him to walk away from this “perfect situation”. He will always make excuses for why the timing is wrong to tell her and to just wait. Now really when is that perfect timing going to be? If she wakes up and realizes things are bad? Maybe.. But at that time you might just be the rebound girl. Which is almost worst than when you were the sideboo.

So he tells you he loves you and that he wants to be with you. If this was true he would make it happen. (Please refer to lie #1.) If you care about someone and you want to be with them you will do what you have to do. If so much time has passed and you are just waiting and waiting then stop. You aren’t getting any younger and you are probably letting good men pass you by. You can do better than a cheater who if he was with you would probably screw you over too.

Final thought on this though. If you are the sideboo and you are ok with it then more power to you. Just keep in mind that it will probably never be anything more than sex. Regardless how great you think it is.

Lie #3 :I will call or be home in a few mins

I don’t know what it is but men have the worst sense of time. It never fails. If they say they will call you in 5 mins it will be no less than 20. If they say they will be home in 15 don’t hold your breath. Its inevitable that something will pop up. Maybe they are at their boys house watching the game and then it went into OT. They can’t leave then. Or another friend showed up at Jimmy’s house and he hadn’t seen him in years. Men are like women…they like to talk and gossip. Maybe not to our extreme but it happens.

Either way it happens and maybe they don't mean to do it but be prepared.

Lie #4: I don't think you are fat or that outfit is ugly

This lie I can see why men do it. If you have gained some weight and he told you baby you put on some pounds how would you feel? Crushed. We don’t really want them to agree that yes those jeans that use to hug your ass just right are now squeezing your thighs and cheeks together and it looks like you are about to explode. Nope that is the last thing we want to hear. So why set them up? Just to get some reassurance. Most men have gotten hip to this. So when posed with the how do I look or do I need to go to the gym question they are on it. That’s when you hear the baby you are fine or I like you just the way you are.
Ladies if you know you have picked up some weight and you feel its an issue then go workout. Do some cardio, lift some weights, even walk a bit. It will make you feel better and then you can say I know I look good.

As far as outfits men don’t always have the same sense of fashion. They could think you are fine in a tshirt and flip flops. Why ask them? Call one of your girls or stop buying questionable items that you have to worry if they look out. You are grown and you know what looks good and what doesn’t.

Finally lie #5: I don't care if you go to the strip club.

Now this is a touchy subject because it can go both ways. I know many women who would be pissed if their man went to a strip club. The only time they get a pass is when they are going for their bachelor party and even then its suspect. Personally I could careless if you go to the strip club. Its not a big deal and I might even be in support of us going together. On that same note I wouldn't want to go to a male strip club. It disgusting and I don't really want anyone flinging their stuff in my face.

I am getting off track. Back to the lie. Now anyways most guys may say they don't care if their girl goes to a strip club. There are two reasons for this. One, they are hoping it gives them a free pass to go to the strip club whenever they want. Two, they know that most women aren't really excited about the strip club and probably won't go. So it won't be a problem. I polled my guy friends and they confirmed this. They don't want their girl going to the strip club but they think its ok for them to go to a female strip club.

Some of the comments they made about the male strip club are that the male strippers can do whatever they want. That the women can touch the strippers Johnson and how the male strippers pick of females and grind on them. Now all of that is disgusting to me but its how men feel about the situation. So instead of saying that is how you think its ok for your girl to go tell her the truth. Then you won't be salty when she plans a trip with her girls.

Men can be insecure just like women. The only difference is that women are more likely to show it.

So bottom line both men and women lie. Not cool but it happens. Trust when I say this is only 5 of the typical lies that men tell. There are many more but I don't have time to just sit here and list them all.