Sex.. the good, the bad, and the ugly

Sex can be a beautiful thing between two people. A chance to really connect and show how you feel for one another. It can be slow and passionate or fast and rough. Either way it is normally looked at as a great stress reliever and a good workout. (Cardio is an excellent way to stay fit people). Anyways what happens when the sex just isn't good? How many times have you had sex with someone and you didn't come? What if it was a bad experience and you wished you could block it out? Would you tell the person or would you just take the L? Does that depend on how close you are to that person?








I can speak from experience that I would let someone know that they sucked in bed.

When I was in college I had sex with this guy. The whole thing probably lasted 30 seconds and I swear it was like 3 strokes and he was done. The oral wasn't even good enough to make up for this poor sexual experience. Needless to say I was pissed and nowhere near satisfied. I was ready to just take the loss and know that I had wasted a number in my list of sexual partners. (Females you know how much we hate that.. especially if you are still in the single digits. We don't want to add a number to our list and have it be a bust) Sorry.. I digressed. Back to the story. So this fool rolled over and smiled like "yeah I just gave it to you". At that point I was livid and I couldn't hold it in. I asked him, "Do you think you just did something good right there?" He was shocked. Not thinking about how harsh the words coming out of my mouth were I just continued. My words verbatim were "This was definitely a waste of my time and I could have been in my room doing my international studies homework. This was the worst experience of my life and I can't believe how quickly you came. Have you ever had sex before?" He said something along the lines of getting another chance and that he didn't believe it was bad. I said "Were you here? Did you miss what didn't happen? I don't make the same mistake twice." I promptly got dressed and rolled out.

Then I proceeded to tell all my girls how terrible it was. So not only did I rain on this fool's parade, I then told every female that I was cool with how awful it was. He was a walking joke. At the time I felt I was justified because it was so awful and I was mad. Looking back it shows my immaturity and how badly I handled the situation. I still think telling him was the way to go but not the way I did it. I wouldn't want anyone else to experience what I did (or didn't for that matter). If you aren't mature enough to have conversations with that person about what you like and don't like then you shouldn't be having sex. That's the bottom line.

I can say that I did end up giving him another chance. Let me tell you it was great. I am sure it had something to do with him trying to prove that he wasn't horrible so he wanted to make sure that I was satisfied completely.