Lying

So today while I was out shopping (I know surprise surprise) I saw a shirt that made me think. It said "To be honest... I'm a liar". True story.. please see the picture below. Anyways it made me really think. How often do we lie and for what reason. Lies can range from little white lies that seem harmless to huge drawn out stories. Stories so detailed and indepth that the person telling them starts to believe it.



You've heard the justifications for lying. "I was embarrassed." "I didn't want to get in trouble." "I didn't want to hurt your feelings." "I can't help it I am a liar." In no means is it ok but it happens. Lies make the world go around and how freaking pathetic is that. In my opinion lying is for bitches. It is never ok. You can try to tell yourself that you had to or it was in the best interest for everyone but really its not. The truth is you didn't want to deal with whatever could come from you being honest.

I can't sit here and say that I have never lied. Am I proud of it.. hell no. I really felt it is necessary at the time. As I write that I wonder well is it really necessary. Maybe I should have manned up or I shouldn't have done shit that I would have to lie about later.

We have all told little lies to our parents, our bosses or our teachers. Let's look at some lies that people tell.

I know this guy who wanted to party with his friends but he has a night job. So in anticipation of calling out the next day he proceeded to act sick at work the night before. He played it so well that he actually thought he was sick. Of course the next day he called out and was able to party it up. Now was anyone hurt by this lie? Well his job was probably short staffed and other people had to pick up the slack but he was able to have fun. This wasn't a last minute dinner that came up. He knew in advance but didn't try to change his schedule or find anyone to cover for him. It didn't matter because he just wanted to put his fun first.

When you are a kid and you didn't do your homework what elaborate stories did you make up to tell your teacher? My dog ate it. My grandmother died. I fell in a ravine. Why the hell didn't we just do our work. Or say I forgot. Or that you didn't feel like doing it because you were watching Power Rangers and didn't care about doing math. That would be some real shit. Instead we took the time to create a lie so that we didn't get in trouble. Sadly our teachers knew we were lying and at the end of the day we were screwing ourselves.

There are times that lies we tell we feel are in the best interest of others. That can be telling your friend her hair doesn't look bad when she looks like who shot John. Or that the outfit she is in love with is cute when you wouldn't be caught dead in it. Or when you tell lies to your significant other to avoid a fight or drama. Are these lies ok? What do you think? (The right answer is no.) If your girl looks set up and you are out with her that isn't cool. Tell her that she looks a mess.. she might get upset but she will thank you later. Now in relationships lies can just be the whole "I am not mad when you are super pissed and you want to punch that person in the throat" or they can be extreme. See the example below.

Say you are in a relationship with someone and you are kicking that good shit to them all the time. You are saying all the I love yous in the world but at the same time you are banging someone else. Can you really be in love with that person? FUCK NO. Are you being pretty selfish and sketchy? Absolutely. If asked about it would you adamantly say "baby I would never cheat on you or do anything to hurt you"? Pretty sure you would. That is another one of those lies that is just ridiculous. How much time does it take to sneak around and do shit? That's when you don't need to be in a relationship and just need to do your own thing. You wouldn't have to worry about hurting that person with your lies because you wouldn't be with them. If they found out how hurt would they be then? How often would they question everything you ever told them?

For me honesty has always been huge. Its one of those things that I hold my friends to a high standard for and myself. You only have your word and if you can't be trusted then really what do you have? Recently I have been lying big time and it just makes me sick to my stomach. Is it to the point where I believe the lies.. not at all. When I hear the words coming out of my mouth though I really wonder what the fuck are you doing? Just be honest and deal with the consequences. I am a grown ass woman and even still I will and have done stupid shit. Can I really judge or get mad at anyone for being dishonest when I am living a lie? If people want to tell me that they saw that purple pig or that they aren't dating someone when I know they are can I get upset? Maybe I should just accept that they are liars and keep it moving.

On an ending note, peep this quote from our sixteenth president Abraham Lincoln. "No man has a good enough memory to be a successful liar." That's some real shit. You will eventually mess up, your credibility will be shot and people will always have a place in the back of their mind were they wonder if you are lying right now.