Friday night I went out to this spot in Baltimore. It was nice, the music was bumping, the drinks were flowing and of course I am looking good. So I get there and I start dancing because its been a while. Then it happened. Out of nowhere this guy was trying to grind on me. Maybe I missed the signal that I threw out there but that was not what I wanted. That night was strictly about having fun with the girls.
So I pose this question. As women when we go out and we are definitely on our game does that mean we are setting ourselves up for unwanted attention? What happened to you can look but you can't touch? Just because I take the time to make sure I look good and I give off sexiness it doesn't mean that I want some random guy on me. I am not looking for anyone at a club especially in Baltimore.
To avoid this what can I do? If I kindly move away the guys don't always get the hint. If I am rude about it then I might get snatched up or called something inappropriate. Do I just have to go out to the bar looking busted so that no one will be in my face? Thoughts....
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Mixed Signals
Posted by Monologues of a FASHiONiSTA at 11:49 AM
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The funny thing is that they pay attention to anything. Usually those guys at the club all on their single game whether they're good looking, or raunchy some of them are going to pay attention to the busted chick. So even if you were busted it doesn't matter. What further bothers me is like you said, you can be nice and just move away or you can be a little not so nice and move away. Nonetheless I don't understand why the word bitch has to come out of their mouth just because you don't want their nasty hard dick on the back of your leg.
She's right. Dudes are going to be persistent regardless. Somehow we've made up our mind that no really means please keep trying and that any girl - whether she's "busted" or has her stuff together - should consider herself lucky that she was the chosen one. Annnnd this is Baltimore. If you're a female going out in Baltimore that automatically means you like feeling denim-covered erections. So why wouldn't we keep trying? Get your shit together. Bmore out.
OK, this is an easy one. Honey attracts bees and sometimes flies. You can't expect to go to a club, a place where social interaction is facilitated, and not get approached by both bees and flies.
As a man, I will fill you in on something... the only reason we go to the club is for GIRLS!!! Of course, we want to persist and get at you if you are on your "A" game because that emits energy to us that says that you are looking for the same thing that we are looking to achieve.
If a random guy comes up to you and persists, just shrug your shoulders, don't pay him any mind, and go on about your business. Eventually, he will just walk away once he realizes how embarrassing it is to talk to a cold shoulder.
Overall, just take it as a compliment that even the flies have good taste sometimes...
Oh mannn! This is funny.
PK that was hilarious. 'Denim covered erections.' lmfao
1beautifulmind it is sooo true. Honey attracts bees AND sometimes flies.
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