When is it time to let go?

When you are in a relationship with someone you go through that newlywed stage. The time when everything is perfect and they can do no wrong. Unfortunately this normally passes and at some point your relationship comes to an end. The breakup can be for various reasons. Maybe you weren't compatible. Or you realized there were things you could never live with. Perhaps its was just the circumstances. Nonetheless, the relationship was over. Well why is it that so often after a breakup there is a long period of time before you really let go?

Any Sex in the City fan will remember from the movie the rule of how long you have to get over a relationship. It is exactly half of the time of the relationship. Anything above that is really ridiculous. If you were with someone for a year it shouldn't take you two to get over them. I was in a 5 year relationship and it took a year and a half to let go. Our breakup was mutual and something we both knew needed to happen. Sure there were times I still wanted to be with him and that we acted like we were still together but the reality of it was that we were broken up. I wasn't his girl and he wasn't my man.

Now there are some dudes that don't know how to let go, but for the most part they have enough sense to keep that under wraps. Girls are not as bright. Instead we walk around looking like we have lost everything in the world. We tell any and everyone who will listen our story and then we make the terrible mistake of calling or trying to get your ex back. I have wondered where the good men are and if these were good men that women were trying to hold on to I would get it. That isn't always the case. They can be cheaters, liars and a ton of other bad things but still females hold on. When it is a good guy you probably did some crazy shit and that is why he rolled out or he just realized you didn't have everything he wanted in his significant other. While its hard to accept, if someone walks away from you why are you trying to hold on so much? It takes two people to make something work and if its only 1 person you are screwed.

In that time that a girl still has not let go, she begins to do some irrational things. For example, getting upset that your homegirl commented on something your ex said. Why are you tripping and worried about who he is talking to? Especially when the other party has moved on. Another example, someone breaks up with you but the two of you still act like you are together. You have to know that there is no real reason for them to get back with you. They have the benefits of a relationship without the responsibility. As I stated above I can speak from experience about this. All this does is drag out the inevitable. Sex will not keep someone nor will buying them shit. Finally, once you are no longer with someone you have zero jurisdiction. You can't govern anything that they do or with whom they do it. Cut your losses and move on. Unless things ended horribly you should hope for the best for that person and try to find someone else to give you the happiness you deserve.

In ending letting go can be hard but it is a part of life. Hang out with your friends and family. Don't mope and bring up the past any chance you have. Look towards the future and keep positive thoughts. Before you know it you will have moved on to a new chapter in your life with someone else.