So they say what goes around comes around right? So let me paint a scenario for you. If you start talking to someone and find out they have a significant other, the proper thing to do would be to fall back, right?. Well instead of running in the opposite direction you continue to deal with this person. You wait for things to fall apart with them and their boyfriend or girlfriend all the while you are still there. It finally happens and you are now the object of that persons affection. Could you really look at them and feel confident that they wouldn't cheat on you? Especially since you knew about the prior relationship and still pursued this person?
We have all heard the excuses for cheating. "They never have time for me." "I don't have the same feelings I use to." "They aren't giving me everything I need." Regardless of what the reason is the person still cheated. Instead of ending their relationship they decided to keep it up and have fun on the side. With that being said, if you have cheated on one person does that mean you are bound to always cheat? Is the saying once a cheater always a cheater right? Or does it mean that the person hadn't find the one?
Back to the person who was on the side. If they get cheated on do they deserve it? They know this person is capable of cheating so what makes them think they wouldn't be lied to or cheat on? Sure when you care about someone you want to believe they will never do anything to hurt you but the truth of the matter is people are human. There is temptation around every corner and the love you have for someone may not be enough to make them do the right thing. Especially since they have fallen for the forbidden fruit before. Maybe things will be peachy keen and the cheating and lying won't ever be a problem. That could just be wishful thinking though.
So I am asking all my followers, please share you thoughts on this. Note I kept this gender free because I think men and women alike can cheat or be the person on the side. Holla.
Saturday, October 18, 2008
If they cheat on you like they did to them, do you deserve it?
Posted by Monologues of a FASHiONiSTA at 10:22 PM
Labels: cheating lying karma trust
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Have you ever heard the expression, "You ultimately end up the way you started?" Basically, you two were together under selfish reasons so if screws you over for selfish reasons, then you gotta take it with a grain of salt and keep it moving.
This reminds me of a blog I just recently started and haven't posted yet. I do agree with 1beautifulmind that if you obtained it under selfish reasons and shit hits the fan its like you can't even act surprised. Thats not necessarily saying that it will happen that way. I think we need more men insight. Where's my BF. Let me tell him to come comment.
Here i am to save the day duh duh duh duh. lol.
In a situation such as the one stated you will never be able to trust the person who fooled around while still in a relationship bc he or she has already shown that they will move on to what THEY may think is a better person for what ever reason (ie. looks, sex, or conversation) I would not get emotionaly involved with a person of that nature I tried once and it made me realize that i would never trust nor respect that individual. With all that being said have fun with this person but DO NOT allow yourself to fall in love or emotional linked with them bc in the end you will end up hurt like the last person.
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